Another Unique Situation

Benzen will be 3 months old tomorrow.  I know I say it every week but, he is really coming into his own now.  He is starting to smile, sometimes laugh, and as you can see hold his head up pretty well.  These are all great mile stones he is meeting.  They seem so simple and so routine but in Benzen's case they are not.  We went to see Dr. G on Monday and Benz weighed 11pounds 8ounces.  Dr. G said he looks perfect.  He also ordered blood work for Benz.  The result came in today and his blood work was very good.  We can stop his iron supplement, multi-vitamin, and reflux medication.  One of the major mile stones the neurologist told us he would look for at 4 months was head control.  Dr. G said that looks very good too.  His neutrophil number is still 2,600 which is considered normal.
Today we went to see the surgical team at St. V's.  We were first seen by the surgeons PA, whom Benzen told me he had a crush on because she was pretty(I wasn't paying attention).  Then the surgeon came in and he was very nice and really informative.  We told them our story and they were very empathetic.  They took the time to explain everything to us, listen to us, and we never felt rushed.  After the surgeons exam of Benz, we had yet again another unique situation on our hands.  He could not see or feel his hernia, but said from what we described and the pictures we showed him, that he is pretty sure it's a hernia.  The problem is he still has a testicle that has not fully descended.   He would like to wait to fix the testicle issue until after Benz is one.  But, the hernia needs fixed sooner than that.  We could do the hernia surgery now but that means we would have to fix the testicle placement at the same time, which can be troublesome.  We decided to wait and keep an eye on the hernia.  If it flares up again we will take him in.  If it doesn't we have to go back anyway to make sure the testicle descends and revisit our options.
I have been thinking a lot about my grandma Sandy (Bubbe) lately.  She passed away in March of this year.  She loved Beyla so much and I just wish she would have got to meet Benz because she would have loved him so much too.  I try to live up to what she left behind as her legacy.  She was loving, funny, and most importantly selfless.  When Amy and I got the news Benzen would be born very sick our world was rocked on top of that my Bubbe was taking a turn for the worse.  She was in the ICU in very bad condition.  She was intubated, so she could not speak and could not write.  One day my dad went to visit her and was giving her an update on Benz.  After their talk she, with all her might, wrote Amy a note.
Dear Amy:
I was going to ask you for help, but you need mine more.  My heart weeps for you and Ben.
Love,
Bubbe
She was going to ask Amy for Speech help when she would be un-intubated.  This is the kind of selflessness I am talking about.  No matter what is going on in my life my kids are first.  That short note will make me a better man forever.